Therapy tools like CBTs challenging distorted thoughts are fine, but they just don’t go to the heart of the cause while Buddhism does guide you to that. When we explore deep down what our deepest wants and needs are and whose lacking being addressed can cause our greatest hurts, we can find the greater truths that show us how to meet the ones that actually matter the most and are without greed, repulsion, delusion or ignorance. We give ourselves true love of compassion, loving kindness and equanimity; we find and take in unburdened joy. In these ways we heal and thrive without conditions.